Whatever he said to you, was said for that purpose. Photo credit: Until such time, about a year ago, I was diagnosed with cancer. You have only one, don't let him take the rest of yours, from you. I was ready—for peace and resolution, and justice. He said imma take care of it. But you weren't, you were a young, sweet woman. But I just kept getting another job, took xanax for anxiety, hid money, garnered support from my family.
You have objected and you have argued. I know I should have said all this a long time ago, but back then, I was just too angry and couldn't think straight. I phoned you when I came round from the op and the last thing I remember telling you through my drug fogged haze was that I love you. Did I know any of this when I married him? Write the final draft of the letter, then read it thoroughly to be sure it conveys the appropriate message. Thank you for reaching out. After the meeting, I decided to catharticize it by writing a letter to his attorney that said everything I wanted to say but did not have the chance to.
But so toxic…so toxic I left when I was 20 for a trip to Italy. I remember during our arguments you would say things to me that were really mean. Yu Yang asked his girlfriend Chen Wen for her hand in marriage but she refused. God gave me this amazing opportunity to love. I am putting my faith in God's hands. Our community is cut off to the search engines and allows total anonymity, so you can safely get the emotional and practical support you need. It is so hard for a lot of people to understand being married to a narcissist.
This belief was changed completely when a woman entered his cabin, 10 years ago. He will never call to ask me advice on fashion which is a good thing because I have none! He has abused me so bad one time, that I actually imagined jumping off a bridge for it to end. He abused his children from his deceased first wife and then pitted them against me. It was this that led to the ultimate betrayal in our relationship. I honored, I loved, I hurt, I forgave.
I pleaded with you constantly to talk to me, to try and save our marriage and to stop hating me and then one day I snapped. You took nothing as your fault, and blamed each person in the house for the problem. I don't regret being available for my children. I always thought my life was his, and his was mine. I tried to speak to you the next day but you wouldn't talk to me.
It was after my father's death that you started to act in a manner that was so unlike you. As a matter of fact, I think the differences of opinion between us are also taking its effect on the children and if this continues for a long time, then it will take its toll on them. They've taught me that no matter how much I want to yell and scream at you, you will be totally unmoved and I will only hurt myself, the kids, and those around me. The years have been me auditioning for a role that was never available. Like I could post this and it will not matter. Important big stuff that is amazing or great. You appreciate what we once had?? You have withheld information from the solicitors; you have left me to deal with all aspects of the house sale.
The pain of such awful arguments and horrible words? I found this page for him to read and it was a mistake in doing so as he seems very bent out of shape. I can't talk to men, I can't let them touch me. My heart has been broken beyond repair, he went from a devoted husband and father to now some cold hearted freak. You may not ride a white horse, and although your scent of bacon is not the worst, your smile definitely makes me smile. Getting married implicitly states that you are on board for all the work involved in having a life together, and if they have a home and kids, he was obviously involved with getting those into the picture as well, so yes, those are also squarely on his plate. It is a very empty, lonely life to be the spouse of someone who cannot tune in to the emotional needs of family members. My husband was an alcoholic before I met him and worse before I met, so all that you are saying make no sense.
I am not all the way there yet but I know I will get there. Barbara has three children, and none of them are too old be called teenagers. But I know making it s conversation could be a start, and that doing nothing ensures nothing gets better. I let them convince me that I was monster you told me I was. In the beginning, during those first dark, hellish months, I wanted to know how he could do this to me, why was he doing this to me. You sat in the pub looking so pleased with yourself and so sure about what was to come.